Sunday, January 16, 2011

I'm leery of some homeschooling families

In the homeschooling universe, boys with long hair are not as well behaved as boys with short hair.

Certainly there are polite young gentleman with ponytails and hellions with crew cuts, but in general, if I -- right now -- had to choose a husband for a daughter based only on their hair length, I'd go with the very shortest haircut.

My hypothesis is that some boys' long hair goes along with a general air of permissiveness in those boys' families, which results in more spastic, annoying behavior.

(Note: my own children's hair is rather unkempt, so I am not preaching from any pedestal here. Case in point: Birdy, below.)

I've just noticed in general that there is a greater potential for meeting feral weirdos in the homeschooling community.

The majority of women I meet who are homeschooling their little ones are fabulous, hilarious, supportive and relatively normal. However, there is a fringe element with which I was previously unacquainted.

Let's just say I've met a lot more people with interesting conspiracy theories since I started rubbing elbows with others who've kept their children out of educational institutions.

For example, the lady who told me this week that cancer was cured in 1928 but the government made it illegal to treat it (the cure involves vegetables) because the pharmaceutical companies want to make money selling chemotherapy drugs.

If I wanted to, I could get offended by her point of view -- I don't think that Rannie's doctors let her die because they wanted to make money, for example -- instead I breezily told her that I couldn't really see the logic there and pretended my kids needed my immediate attention.

I want my kids to grow up to be extremely productive, disciplined members of society who will, if I am ever-so-lucky, bring their families over for Sunday dinner every single week.

Is that desire related to my choice to homeschool? Yeah, a little bit. I think keeping my daughters away from unattended mean girls, repetitious lessons and universal cheers for mediocre work is a good thing.

But apparently,  I'm still going to have to teach them to steer clear of the long-haired weirdos.

4 comments:

MarĂ­a said...
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Carol-Sutarooni said...

The important thing to remember is that you are making decisions based on your own life, and others are too. I looked at home schooling and knew I didn't have the patience, discipline, or desire to do so. I have a friend who saw her child being overlooked and joyfully took on homeschooling with great results.

I found your blog by hitting the next blog button. I really liked that it wasn't just a family scrap book book, but your heart, sharing your feelings. I read many postings but am only responding here.

One thing you might want to consider is Early Childhood Family Education (ECFE) classes offered by your school district. These classes have two components. Mom and me, where the mothers or fathers, or grandmothers in my sister-in-laws case, do activities with the children. Then they break into two groups. The children go to a group activity and the adults have their own group. It is a great way to meet other parents, get support, and talk to other grown-ups! Most districts offer it through community education.

To raise wonderful human beings, treat them with respect and demand they treat you with respect. Be consistent and don't give in to whining. Allow them to have their own feelings, but you don't have to be a part of them. One thing that was effective in our family was asking them to go to their room and come back when they were feeling happier. (It worked).

You have your work cut out for you and I wish you well. I also want to tell you that it is not failure if sometime down the line your kids ask to go to school. Good luck and best wishes.

Carol

Shaken Mama said...

Thanks for your comment, Carol, I really appreciate it.

Today at a Meet-Up, I had yet another homeschooling mom try to evangelize me. The weirdness won't stop.

But neither will I in my quest to properly educate my kids!

Alice in Amishland said...

I, too, have an irrational fear of homeschoolers. I do not know why, nor do I ever have an opportunity it interact with them.
I also have to agree with you on the "Chinese Mother". A lot of western mothers seem to celebrate mediocrady and hold their children on a pedestal. I tend to disagree. Maybe its my catholic upbringing, but I usually assume my kid's the one doing something wrong.
Glad to find your blog!