Comments on Shaken Mama: Time to get down on the kids

I just think that Chua let the cat out of the bag....

2011-02-21T20:20:13.178-08:00

I just think that Chua let the cat out of the bag. It is a great book. Asian parents from India to China are hard pushing on their kids. It is a way of life that is valid for the majority of the worlds population. Is it any better than the over indulging USA model for the entitled children? I don't know.

Funny enough, it wasn't so much my parents (oh, my dad was a softy and over indulgent), rather it was my oldest sister that was insulter, the one full of criticism. I don't talk to that sister at all anymore. She has a kid of her own now, and I hope she isn't as hard on her as she was on me growing up.

I think there may be something lost in the transla...

2011-01-29T19:03:21.779-08:00

I think there may be something lost in the translation too. In Chinese, some of the things in the language and culture may be perceived as harsh or cruel in American English language / culture. For example, the word "fat" is not necessarily "fat-ugly" but more "fat-you're looking well and can afford to buy enough food at your house."

Glad to see you are blogging...I haven't checked in in a while.

Hi! nice to read your post! I told you earlier my ...

2011-01-25T21:43:13.382-08:00

Hi! nice to read your post! I told you earlier my thoughts on Chua- how her brand of love doesn't translate well to the American audience (she has seemed harsh in articles but in a TV interview, her love/humility was more clear)... still my first reaction to her was very negative. I guess with me having life background with abusive language, any authority figures who used harsh words were deeply de-motivating in my life; the right balance of expectation & inspiration/faith in my abilities were the most effective. I still feel the sting of hearing what Chua said to her daughters, but at the end of the day, I am all for believing in assuming strength for our kids, having high expectations, and investing time in training them to be great. So, no matter how negatively I feel about some of what I've heard about her, and despite the fact that I don't think I can handle reading her book, I am happy that I feel spurred on to believe in my kids & drill them in the skills I know they need to have! At age 7, N. is on multiplications already, amazing, huh? I'm ready to work it until it's seamless! :D :D p.s. he enjoys it, making my job all the easier...

Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog! I didn&#...

2011-01-25T09:30:23.010-08:00

Thanks for your sweet comment on my blog! I didn't know you were back online :) So exciting! I have missed reading about your adventures! ...And I totally agree - sometimes criticism (or honesty), can help us be more successful!

Agreed. Every word.

2011-01-24T09:59:07.056-08:00

Agreed. Every word.